I took my daughter on a 'collegemoon' to Europe. It made my anticipatory grief about her leaving for school even stronger.

Aug 25, 2026 05:25 AM - 2 hours ago 2

The writer and her girl airs connected a caller travel to Europe.

The writer (right) took her girl connected a European picnic earlier she heads disconnected to assemblage this fall. Courtesy of Kate Loweth.

My girl is heading disconnected to college successful Southern California successful precocious September, and I'm doing what I fishy galore parents do erstwhile a kid reaches this milestone: trying to beryllium genuinely excited while softly wondering really I'm expected to get utilized to an emptier house.

So past month, I took her connected a "collegemoon" to observe everything she had accomplished — and, possibly selfishly, to soak up immoderate clip together earlier she leaves home.

What I didn't expect was really that travel would make maine moreover much anxious astir her next steps.

We took a travel to observe each of her difficult work

My girl had earned this celebratory trip. She graduated pinch a GPA complete 4.0, but that number doesn't really show the full story.

During her inferior and elder years of precocious school, she took each of her classes astatine our section organization college, yet earning 2 subordinate degrees alongside her precocious schoolhouse diploma. Watching her juggle college-level coursework, babysitting 20 hours a week, and being a teen was 1 of those parenting experiences that was some exhausting and exhilarating.

I was incredibly proud of her, and I wanted to people the juncture pinch thing bigger than a meal retired aliases a graduation party. So we went to Europe.

We sewage to beryllium conscionable mom and daughter

For a week, we traveled the Croatian coast, stopping successful beautiful seaside towns and ancient cities earlier spending a fewer days successful Venice. While I braced myself for the anticipation that she mightiness not beryllium thrilled astir spending that overmuch uninterrupted clip pinch her mother, she was an absolute delight.

She willingly joined maine for early-morning stepping tours done ancient cities, moreover erstwhile I'm judge sleeping successful would person been the much appealing option. We wandered constrictive streets, ate acold excessively overmuch gelato, and had the benignant of agelong conversations that don't look to hap astatine location pinch siblings and schedules base down.

On this trip, we simply sewage to beryllium together.

The writer and her girl thrust done the canals connected Venice.

The writer said she enjoyed seeing a different broadside of her girl connected this trip.  Courtesy of Kate Loweth.

Then the reality of her leaving deed maine hard

I had thought this travel would make maine consciousness amended astir her leaving. Instead, it made the impending separation consciousness overmuch much real.

There's a peculiar benignant of anticipatory condolences that comes pinch watching your kid hole to time off home. She isn't going anyplace bad. In fact, she's headed toward precisely what we've spent years hoping for: a assemblage acquisition wherever she tin grow, meet caller people, go much independent, and fig retired who she is extracurricular our family.

I cognize I'm expected to beryllium excited. And I am. But location betwixt stepping done ancient Croatian cities and sitting beside her connected the ship, I realized conscionable really overmuch I'm going to miss the personification she is correct now.

More connected kid independence

The unusual point astir parenting is that you walk years encouraging your children to go independent, and past 1 time you recognize they really are.

I'm learning that being proud and sad tin coexist

The collegemoon was expected to beryllium a ceremony of her adjacent chapter. Instead, it became a reminder of really overmuch I'll miss this one. And possibly that's OK.

If anything, our week successful Europe made maine grateful for the years that sewage america present — and for the truth that, earlier she left, I sewage 1 much really awesome escapade pinch her.

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